Rachel Parsons - Coach & Horses

EQUINE LEARNING & CONSCIOUS CONNECTION

SUPPORTING PEOPLE & HORSES TO FIND CONFIDENCE & JOY.

Inspiration + Education + Community

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 I coach using a mix of Natural Horsemanship, Conscious Leadership and Neuro-Linguistic Programming to support people and horses to move from crisis and chronic stress to harmony.

I’m here to help you rebuild your confidence, self-trust, calm and connection – in and out of the saddle.

The picture here is my daughter and her pony Spanner – who I trick trained. Play is a wonderful motivator for horses (and obviously children!) it can be a highly valuable core part of your training too. 

Horses & Humans - Building Levels of Confidence

I provide coaching, clinics and online courses to help both horses and humans rebuild calm, confidence and connection — whether the challenge is anxiety, trauma, burnout or behaviour rooted in stress. 

Through gentle, pragmatic horse training and powerful rider mindset coaching, we create safety first, then develop the skills and strategies that lead to long-term confidence, clarity and successful partnership.

I am not a clinical therapist or counselling professional. My work is coaching and I work on helping you build a new relationahip with yourself to build a better perspective, relationship, and success strategies. 

 

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Over the last 12 months, through our “How To Train Your Dragon Clinics”, we’ve supported over 500 people to gain confidence skills.  100% say they would recommend our work.  70% come back time and time again. 

Rider Mindset, Confidence & Life Coaching

Most riders come to me after a difficult period — sometimes horse-related, sometimes due to life. Anxiety, fear, panic attacks, overwhelm and/or loss of confidence can be triggered by a fall, a setback, or prolonged stress. As mammals, our nervous systems mirror each other, so when you’re not okay, your horse feels it instantly. Any underlying problems are likely to surface as new behaviours – because horses express stress as movement – not language. 

Some clients are also navigating deeper challenges: trauma, domestic violence, chronic burnout, or long-lasting emotional dysregulation. My coaching focuses on building new management techniques, releasing body-held stress, reframing subconscious triggers, and building new patterns of calm, clarity and self-leadership.

If you are in a crisis phase — anxious, stressed, or low — I’ll help you find a safe, grounded baseline from which you can learn again. From here, we explore practical tools and long-term strategies for rebuilding confidence, performance and emotional resilience. People often come to me to build up self confidence before they go into therapy. 

If you want more specific Rider Mindset shifts and help building confidence, it is a simpler process and one I can help teach you 1:1, or come to a clinic, and this usually takes 5-7 sessions to make a significant difference.  

Transformation is absolutely possible — and 100% of my clients report that the work has been deeply helpful.

horse training & Rehabilitation

With a long and broad background of working with nervous, traumatised ‘problem horses’, I can do this work. But I no longer have them with me for extended periods. 

I offer call outs and support to help owners help their horses, and I am happy to attend for training for the horse, but they can’t come and stay with me for it. 

If you need to send a horse for training the only person that I really know and trust is Joanna Lowes, who I train with in West Wales. She is amazing and I have known her and her many horses, clients horses, and her Dr Doolittle zoo of creatures for over 25 years.

Do look at her social media for as much proof as you need! 

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The picture above is the arena at Coetir Bach Farm in West Wales - the home of Joanna Lowes Horse Training and shows a typical clinic.
We teach 2 day clinics, over a weekend, per month. Each have the same format: half is classroom based and half outdoor in the arena.  We have a wide range of horses & training stages; from starters, to problems and everything in between. 

Change Frameworks: from crisis to confidence

As a coach I help my horse and human clients learn to learn better ways.  We’ll cover these subjects and more – in the best order for you.

01. The big picture

Visioning, Reality, Balance & Time

Where are you now? And where do you want to go? Radical honesty, and a curious mindset are key for progress. By balancing big goals with small frequent actions everyone can build an upwards confidence spiral. I’ll help guide you and support your learning all the way. Let’s talk goal setting too. 

02. HORSE TRAINING

"The 13 Principles of Training"

Warwick Schillers book is a hugely important development for global horse training. If you’re serious about horses, learn these universal Principles and transform your horsey-life. I’ll translate these into the everyday and signpost you to brilliant online training (not mine!) to keep you on a safe, happy path. 

03.HORSE TRAINING

Practical Skills: Gaps, Tools + Rules

Knowing how horses learn;  is vital. Rules like: 3-5x Repetition, the skills of Positive Reinforcement, Disengagement before Engagement, Shaping-Finesse etc… Fill your Skills Toolbox with  Foundation, Groundwork & The Basics & Finesse. I’ll help you learn it all so you’re better with horses forever.  

04.HORSE TRAInING

Feedback Skills: Calibrate &Adapt

Progress relies on your ability to accurately calibrate what your horse is telling you. If you can’t see trigger stacking, or fight/flight or “shutdown”, you are really vulnerable. Learn how to see, what to do to (both) stay safe physically and mentally. Move from surviving to thriving. 

05.Confidence Skills

Know Your Brain; Spirals & Strategies.

I’ll teach you the to manage your brain. Know the natural process for survival systems, how to observe them, access them, and manage them. Learn about the Practical and Psychological Skills of self-support. I’ll teach you proven Leadership & NeuroScience techniques to pivot & get back on track fast. 

06.Confidence Skills

Serious Play & Resilience mindset

What’s your “macro mindset”? Fear or Play? Coming at change and confidence with a “Serious Play” mindset will set you up for adaptation, resiliency & joy. You’ll learn a lighter and less stressful way forward. Consistent practice and reflective learning cycles will help you grow with calm confidence. 

07.Confidence Skills

Be Your Captain; Self Improvement

Work on yourself away from your horse. Learn to be the best you in all your relationships to the human and equine species alike. Start by liking and loving you – mindfull, choice-full,  actively managing your mindset, bodyset and energy.

08.Integration

Life Skills & Progressing

Horses are our mirrors. So often they reflect our deepest inner selves. Much of this work is about addressing who we are, so we can support our equine friends. I will help become a better, healthier, bolder and more visible you. 

Horses get PTSD too - Birdy - "the crazy horse"

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The picture above is of Jo and I helping Birdy ("a mad Arab crazy-horse") . This photo shows  the culmination of 6 months of daily training.  Birdy couldn't cope  with bilateral eye stimulation (seeing the rider on him with both eyes ). He could see the rider with one eye with his head bent and just about cope, but when he straightened his head and saw the rider from both eyes, he'd bolt and panic. By teaching him to self regulate in his feet, body and mind, and by working through neck bends in a gentle, but highly managed way - this session was a major breakthrough - shortly after this he was riding on the beach, jumping and hacking out. After this long rehab' Jo was able to rehome him - now he's successfully and very happily competing at endurance!  

About Me

I’m Rachel.
I get to help people make their dreams (human and horsey) come true!

Horse Sense

I believe horses are our mirrors. They are the “hairy psychologist” in our lives! Often humbling and always truthful, they are often the learning that we so deeply need but that can be hard to confront.
In my early 20’s I lived in the Australia High Country for 6 years; cattle mustering, colt-starting, wild horse catching – and  learning new perspectives from old cowboys and progressive cowgirls! A steep learning curve! Back in the UK I collaborated with BHS Fellow, Joanna Day rehabilitating top event horses with “behavioural problems”.  The ethics were depressing and I stopped my public work with horses – for 20 years.

People Sense

My human-focused learning journey began in 2002. I started a serious long-term study of the human behaviourial science; Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP). It is the study of how the brain works, how people communicate, and how to create highly effective, fast change interventions. I’ve practiced these methods across business leaders, community outreach and play therapies, and private clients life coaching for over 20 years.

Clinics & Sharing

My great friend Jo Lowes, worked with Monty Roberts, famously known as “The Horse Whisperer” for many years. In 2024, after a particularly poignant visit to Jo’s yard, we began teaching modern horsemanship clinics together. Now we blend our shared experiences in horsemanship and coaching to create transformational learning opportunities for people and horses.

In 2 years, over 500 people have joined us on this learning journey and the project is growing. 
Clinics are priced low on purpose. We do not want price to be a barrier to learning safety and joy from horses. You’ll just have to drive to West Wales to join us! 

Previous attendees come from all walks of life: happy hacking, therapy use, Police horses, eventing, showing, rehab, polo, racing, breeding, driving, colt-starting, children’s ponies… and much more. 

People who come are Dr’s, teachers, riding instructors, lorry drivers, vets, politicians, business leaders, scientists, therapists, cleaners… Both men and women, everyone is welcome. 

We hope you can join us for these dynamic & friendly clinics sometime soon.

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I’ve completely “lost” my confidence three times. Each time I had to rebuild it—but with practice, it gets easier and you get better and better at it!

Whilst we are not horses, we are all mammals—and our nervous systems and brain plasticity is remarkably similar. Moving from stress to confidence is a skill - it can be taught and it can be learnt. The benefits from mastering your mind will flow over into all parts of your life. It's amazing to experience. I love to help people transform their lives, train their unicorn and find their way forwards again.

I teach both the practical horsemanship skills that help people guide their horses, and the techniques that allow horses to self-regulate and find balance in both brain and body.

Key info

Where are you and where do you work?

I’m based in the New Forest Hampshire.  I teach in person in the South, South West and South Wales area of the UK.
My online clients need to fit a UK + 3 timezone. 

Once a month I travel, via Bristol, to Camarthan, to work with Joanna Lowes and deliver clinics at Coetir Bach in Maesybont.  The day before and the day after the clinic I give to teaching 121 clients on the way up and down the M4. 

How much do you charge?

Call outs for groundwork, loading, handling, mounting block training, re-schooling, general lessons inc trick training etc are £70 p/hr with a reasonable travel charge added if needed. 

Clinics are a really good cost effective option. Days are circa 9.30/10am – 4.30pm. Half in the large indoor classroom & half in the arena. 
Spectate for £80 per day. 
Come with your horse for £105. 
For a list of clinics at Coetir Bach Farm in West Wales please click here. 

Online coaching costs are: 
£70 p/hr 
7 Day Action on Anxiety Intervention is priced per hour. Circa £700-£800 total.